What does it say about us when we continue to celebrate through our clothes? For me the day after Easter the bunnies go away, the day after Christmas you will not see a Santa on my chest and the day after the 4th of July you will not see the red white and blue on my person.
Perhaps this stems from my childhood and the immense shame I had that my mother would keep the Christmas tree up until Valentines day. And sometime after that in the dead of night she would drag the Christmas tree, needles falling, now reduced to its trunk and branches. And she would walk the long distance through our neighborhood and down into the woods for the drop. As if the distance between us and the shameful tree would change things. So in my home sometime before New Years Eve I take down My tree. It is over, I have celebrated and now I am done. No sneaking, skulking or dragging things out in the dead of night. That was fun and I am not forlorn because there will be more fun to be had.
So must the party go on? We all have our reasons for and against but in the end if you are not bringing a little girl shame I say go for it.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Sunday, July 3, 2011
For me or not for me, that is the question
It is the age old question. Are we doing this for ourselves or for our kids? It is a question that for so many of us is uncomfortable. Because we want to buy things for our children for SO many reasons. We didn't have it as a child, we always had it as a child, they didn't have it when I was a child and the list goes on in our motivations as parents.
Well I did have dresses that twirled as a child. I wish my mother had saved some of them. Thus the saving of clothes that is going on right now. From time to time I am forced to ask myself is this for me or her and from time to time the answers are different but in the end my last question is always will it hurt her, make no difference or help her get into MIT. If it is the latter two I get it and let the rest go. Because in the end I want her to be educated and see herself as a sum of all parts that equals good.
Well I did have dresses that twirled as a child. I wish my mother had saved some of them. Thus the saving of clothes that is going on right now. From time to time I am forced to ask myself is this for me or her and from time to time the answers are different but in the end my last question is always will it hurt her, make no difference or help her get into MIT. If it is the latter two I get it and let the rest go. Because in the end I want her to be educated and see herself as a sum of all parts that equals good.
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